- Evelyn Aizenberg Psy.D, LMFT
Relationship with a partner can be one of the most rewarding relationship in one's life, though sometimes it is one of the most challenging one, as well. Communicating openly and honestly is key to creating and maintaining successful relationships. Sometimes, communicating in such ways can be challenged, especially when one experience one's partner as distant, aloof, critical or harsh. Couples often get stuck arguing over insignificant issues in a repetitive manner, which leads to frustration and despair. That is when couple counseling or marriage therapy can be beneficial.
In a supportive, respectful environment, I delicately guide interactions between partners in attempt to slow down the discussion, in order to go deeper into the issue, instead of repeating the old, dysfunctional communication patterns of the couple, that have proven to be ineffective. Together, we try to restore emotional bond that brought the couple together initially. We also work on building an improved, more secure, and deeper relationship between the two of you. You will develop new communication skills, as well as ways to handle anger and frustration in the relationship.
I treat a variety of couples, including heterosexual, homosexual, premarital and separated ones. I strive to create a safe environment for communicating about problems rather than acting them out. My goal is to eventually become obsolete, so that the couple can resolve future issues on their own, with the help of the knowledge and skills they have gained in therapy.
Some of the issues that transpired through my work with couples in couples counseling or marriage therapy include:
- Balancing Household Roles such as Partner, Parent and Provider
- Building Intimacy
- Communication Skills
- Handling Fights
- Internet Porn Addiction
- Money & Power
- Navigating Life Transitions (such as becoming parents, job or financial changes, menopause, empty nest, retirement, etc.)
- Parenting Issues & Techniques
- Premarital Counseling
- Sex Therapy
- Recovering From An Affair Or Betrayal
- Recovering From Trauma
- Restoring Trust
- Working Through Built Up Anger Or Disappointment
- Gay and Lesbian Issues
In my work with couples, I draw from psychoanalytic and attachment theories, as well as from principles derived from the following:
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) which is a method developed by Dr. Sue Johnson. This is a highly successful method of investigating the deeper issues that underlie the cycle of fights couples might get stuck in, and repairing the damage caused by betrayals and disappointments.
Dr. Gottman's approach for treating couples: Dr. John Gottman is the author of The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, The Relationship Cure, And Baby Makes Three (The Six-Step Plan for Preserving Marital Intimacy and Rekindling Romance After Baby Arrives), among others. You can learn more about his work at: www.gottman.com/marriage.
Please note: Couple's counseling sessions are private pay only and insurance cannot be used to pay for these sessions!